The best part of my afternoon, aside from drinking a cream soda (seriously, it takes like 7th grade and sunshine, because it’s been that long since I’ve had one of these) is discovering that imperfection, madness, and chaos IS perfection. Deep right? It all started watching three of my closest friends battling turmoil in their relationships…and this quote:
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”
― Bob Marley
…try to tell me that’s not the prettiest thing you’ve ever read, try. I plan on stapling it to my forehead actually, to remind myself every day while I’m putting no my face, that it’s my own standards that are holding me back from seeing perfection, not his actions or anybody else’s.
It’s no secret that relationships are hard, or that everybody goes through spells of dislike, distaste, and annoy when you’re living with a mate for a more than 2 second period of time. It’s not if you’ll go through it, but when. You’re not going to like his dirty laundry, the way he piles the clothes on the floor, the way he leaves his toothbrush unattended on the sink instead of away. You’ll probably hate the way he laughs at your least favorite show, or the way he acts around certain friends. You might even disagree on major political, religious, parental, or moral issues. Sometimes even, you’ll find him unattractive, you’ll feel repulsed and guilty for feeling repulsed. But the thing is, if you don’t go through hard dry times, you’ll never have the opportunity to appreciate the good.
He should challenge you. He should be able to bring out a deeper laugh, and a more powerful temper in you than you’ve ever had with anybody else. It’s like having to eat enough broccoli to put up with the chocolate intake. You can’t have it good all the time.
More wise words:
Saying you’re sorry doesn’t mean you’re giving up or admitting that he’s right. It means your relationship is worth more to you than your pride.
I can feed you all the most gorgeous quotes in the world, or, you can just remember that there are two people in this…and that your dirty laundry doesn’t smell so good either. Endings aren’t always happy, this I know, I’m just saying that it takes both of you to create both the beginning…and the end. It’s not every one person’s fault that there isn’t a chocolate-filled relationship start –> finish. Hold yourselves to a standard of grace…not perfection.
*Sips Cream Soda*