Let It Go

Amidst a storm of things this week, I’ve found myself in this horribly, wallowy place of bitterness and anger and resentment. I was driving to work today with this goal in mind to punch those storms in the face with big fancy words to make myself feel better, uncaring of what it might do to the people on the other side BUT I WAS RIGHT ABOUT THE WAY I FELT AND THEREFORE I NEED TO SAY IT.

For whatever reason, while plotting my emails and texts and phone calls to clear out my head (gosh I sound like a drama llama don’t I?), I looked to the west and saw the moon going down as the sun was coming up. And I realized that it could be that simple. I mean, I could just let it go.

The thing about anger and guilty and resentment and bitterness, is that unless you do choose to explode…it only hurts you. The longer you let it settle in to your bones, the more havoc it creates. The more it feeds your need to feel all of those things, and the more it empowers you to hurt somebody else. Has throwing stones based on any of those emotions ever made any situation better? Here’s what it does do: It sits in your insides and builds this warm cozy fire and prepares a bottle gasoline, and no matter who comes along next with a little bit of pain to throw at you, the fire gets bigger. Your resentment and bitterness for one person is now fueled by two or three or fourteen…and instead of making peace with what is ACTUALLY causing any of those feelings, we let it simmer until we pick one or two to take it out on.

The bitterness that you’re holding onto because of:
That person that hurt you years ago? let it go.
That email you’ve been meaning to send to confront your demons with somebody that has obviously moved on without you? let it go.
The man that chose to walk away from your marriage or relationship or child? let  it go.
The way you don’t feel loved enough by the right people? let it go.
The way you feel when he or she doesn’t believe your truth? let it go.
That person that hates your success and incredible life because THEY’RE cooking a resentment fire? let it go.

As the moon goes down in the morning and lets the sun come up with a clean slate of a day, let it go.
Pull up those cute galoshes and bust out that pink polkadotted umbrella. Storms are going to come and go, but how you choose to react to those storms is what makes you.

“Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control.
We can love and care for others, but we cannot possess our children, lovers, family, or friends.
We can assist then, pray for them, and wish them well, yet in the end their happiness and suffering depend on their thoughts and actions, NOT on our wishes.”

Love,
Nomz

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7 thoughts on “Let It Go

  1. “And I realized that it could be that simple. I mean, I could just let it go.”
    Simple & true & beautiful as can be. I love this & am totally going to come back and love on it the next time my insides are stoking a fire.

    Love you, genius!

  2. YOU are pure amazing! Your words not only helped you put out that fire but it will no doubt help others who read this! Thanks Naomi!

  3. Let me just say that I’m in the same spot as you right now. Life is good and bad and confusing and wonderful at the same time. It’s also going at a speed faster then I like. Time to breathe, let it go, calm down and hug my girls tighter. Thanks friend as always.

  4. Oh my…..this is the BEST BLOG EVER WRITTEN! It’s the thoughts, words and actions that WE ALL think about EVERY dang day.

    I have been ‘letting it go’ for years and years now. I decided that my OWN personal happiness, my OWN personal sanity and my OWN personal stress level…was dependent upon ‘letting it go’, no matter what.

    You bet, I used to be the first person to ‘react’ to a situation and wanted the last word. But now? I let the comment, rudeness, lies, rumors, meanness (whatever it may be) fly head-first at me. Then, I just sit back, close my eyes and go to my happy place. I am more at peace with my life, while ‘that situation or person’ is still…not.

    It’s also called maturity, if a person can ‘let it go’.

    Thanks for the blog Nomz!!! I plan to share it with all my friends and family!

  5. Needed this blog today!!! Go figure!!! My letting it go is more along the lines of fighting against the universe in some sort of battle to make sure it doesn’t take anyone I love without my expecting it. In the end I just expect it and the poor people whom I love dearly end up with a frantic ball of goo that SHOULD be me. Last night I was said frantic ball of goo, positive that a rogue bomb went off somewhere in Alabama and killed my one true love (I’m dead serious people) or that a mugger and left him for dead after he walked home from an evening out with his classmates. I worried so hard I was goo. As IF worrying could really do a thing about whatever the universe chooses to throw my way. I can’t do anything about it. I can’t pray it not to happen, I can’t do anything but choose to react…either be a ball of mess that can’t function or…be strong and know that whatever the universe throws my way, I can handle it. Come to find out, I suck at figuring out time differences (HUGE deal between a one hour time difference or a two hour time difference). I wasted so much of my night!!! sigh… I like your day and night, stormy thing…PERFECT for choosing NOT to fight…well…the universe. THANK YOU!

  6. I don’t know if it’s the time of year of if I have simply hit the same wall you have! There’s a time and a place for everything but most of all we have to leave the baggage along the way 🙂 We can worry about changing it or simply do the best we can with the cards we have been dealt. The sooner you let it go, the quicker the next hand can be dealt and you move on to something more invigorating, inviting, challenging, rewarding, loving, whatever it may be. I have to remind myself frequently that others are the ones missing out. And I don’t mean just a parent, this includes aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, friends, etc. I too have to remind myself… LET IT GO! Make the most of the time we have and enjoy life to the fullest. Mind you, this turnaround philosophy does include letting Monkey have ice cream for breakfast! Simply because he enjoys it and I LOVE his face, reaction, and spending this time with him!

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